Talk to yourself
It’s not barmy, it’s good sense. You may have dozens of negative internal scripts running in your head right now and talking to yourself is a great way of neutralizing them. They’ve been cobbled together by your subconscious and your survival instinct from warnings like “careful,” “don’t fall”, or “mind, that’s hot. Don’t believe it? Try thinking about something you’ve always wanted to do but never got round to: what’s stopping you? Listen hard and you’ll hear that negative script, on a loop, saying something like “what? you? no chance!”
Step one / examine the evidence
Give yourself time to start hearing the negative talk; enlist the help of a pal – you listen for hers, she listens for yours. You’ll be surprised by how many things these negative scripts warn you against and stop you from doing. Write them down in a list.
Step two / now destroy the evidence…
Take each negative script in turn: cross it out – very therapeutic – then write next to it the exact opposite of what it said. So if your internal script said “I’m no runner”, write “I’m a great runner”. At this point you don’t have to believe it, you just have to write it down.
Step three / and start believing
Read your new positive scripts over to yourself and starting with just one, repeat it out loud at least once a day and in your head at least 10 times a day. If you can say it out loud lots of times so much the better. Just keep repeating it and you’ll find you do start to believe it. It works.
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Confidence keynotes
Those negative scripts are part of a whole system of negatives we all have called limiting beliefs: they’re often completely unfounded, based on nothing more than something someone carelessly said to you years ago, perhaps warning you of a potential danger or criticising you to make them feel stronger. They’ve probably never thought about it since then, but your subconscious joined forces with your survival instinct and turned the negative stuff into a self-fulfilling prophecy. You think you’re hopeless at maths, you say it, your internal script repeats it and, surprise, surprise, you go into meltdown if you have to calculate anything more complicated than 1+1! Good to know, then, that you can talk yourself out of these self-fulfilling prophecies, just as your subconscious talked you into them.
